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What Positive Thinkers Do that Negative Thinkers Do Not

March 30, 2015 by Debra Kasowski Leave a Comment

“you can, you should, and if you’re brave enough to start, you will.” Stephen King

People often refer to positive thinkers as the people who wear “rose-coloured glasses” or as people who see a glass as “half-full” versus half-empty. Positive thinkers do have a different approach to life than negative thinkers.

Yes, bad things happen in life.

Positive thinkers are not ignoring life circumstances. They do attempt to explore, learn and understand the life events.

Positive thinkers are:

Open to Change and Opportunity. They are open and willing to trying new things, developing new skills, and gaining new knowledge. They look for the possibilities in new situations or in times of uncertainty. Negative thinkers shut down opportunities out of fear. They are not willing to learn and grow. They are often happy with the status quo even if they do complain about it. They do not want to change.

Better Decision Makers. Positive thinkers look for the strengths, opportunities, and best possible outcomes and strive to meet the outcomes they desire. They are open to trying new things and do not close themselves off from opportunities as negative thinkers do.

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Solution-focused. Positive thinkers do not dwell on problems but rather focus on positive solutions. They have the ability to see look at the big picture and brainstorm ways to overcome any challenges that may arise. Negative thinkers focus only on the problem and see change as impossible.

More Resilient. They do not unravel easily. They are in tune with their emotions and see setbacks as a chance to stop, breathe, and re-focus – a set up for success. Negative thinkers see situations as permanent and get stressed out. They tend to over-react to situations and do not see the impact of their outbursts or behavior on others.

Resourceful. When they do not know an answer to a question, they will seek out the information or refer to someone who does have this information. They often have a “quitting is not an option” attitude. Negative thinkers are not willing to look for new ways of doing things because they think everything is going to fail anyway or they say “what’s the point?”

Grateful. Positive thinkers enjoy the little things life has to offer. They look for and are grateful for the positive things in their life. Things as simple as being able to: take a breath, for there are others in the world struggling to breathe; hear the sound of music, for there are many who cannot enjoy someone singing off key; or to smell the aroma of mom’s baked apple pie from the kitchen, for there are others who cannot smell. Negative thinkers complain and blame others for their life circumstances.

Positive thinkers also energize relationships and social interactions. You cannot help but want to be around them. They make you feel good about yourself and life in general. In the workplace, these are people you want on your team. These are people who get things done. They are productive and they are high performers. Negative thinkers are just the opposite.

The best thing about thinking is that you can choose to be a positive thinker or you can choose to be a negative thinker. Making the shift can make you stand out of the crowd. You can get promoted, develop stronger relationships, and be given opportunities a negative thinker would not get. Positive thinkers – DO what negative thinkers are not willing to DO.

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How Taking Responsibility Can Transform Your Life

March 30, 2015 by Debra Kasowski Leave a Comment

From an early age, we have learned that life comes with responsibilities. We all have responsibilities but do we fulfill those responsibilities to the best of our ability? When things do not go as planned, you may have caught yourself blaming, complaining, or making excuses.

Granted, life happens along the way.

Some things are not in our control but there is a great number of things that are.18342524_l

Blaming, complaining, and making excuses will not change a thing. Alright, maybe the change will be that people start avoiding you as they do not want to get caught up in negative energy.

Don’t wait for a fairy godmother to wave her magic wand?

You need to step up and take responsibility for your thoughts, words, and actions. You can much more control than you give yourself credit for.

When things do not go as planned, you can choose to react or to respond. For example, if you receive an email that is devastating. Do not react with CAPITALIZED letters. Do not spend time analyzing the person’s intent. An email is nothing more than words on a screen. Give yourself some time to think about what has triggered you instead of creating a volcanic eruption of emotions. Pick up the phone or arrange for an in-person meeting to voice your concerns, get rationale, and ask for what you need to understand the message received.

See every situation is an opportunity to learn or teach others.

Reflect on situations that you have reacted to rather than responded to. What can you do differently if the situation presented itself again?

You have the ability to control your thoughts, habits, and actions. Step up and do what you say you are going to do. If you are not doing what you say you must do, why not? Is it important to you? Are you holding yourself back or holding people up? Inaction is an action. Taking responsibility and responding to life events can help you create a life that you are in control of.

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Are You Working a Job While Working Your Dream?

March 24, 2015 by Debra Kasowski Leave a Comment

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Do You Have the Power of Focus?

March 1, 2015 by Debra Kasowski Leave a Comment

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Isn’t it Time to Raise the Bar?

February 22, 2015 by Debra Kasowski Leave a Comment

Filed Under: Blog Tagged With: expect more, high standards, integrity, personal development

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