From the time we were little, we were taught to share.Why do we not share our hopes and dreams with those closest to us? Are you afraid that they will laugh or talk you out of it? Focus on your vision. It belongs to you. If you believe you can achieve it, it does not matter what others say, you will do it. With the individuals I talk to, it could be further from the truth. When others are aware of your goals, they are better able to support and encourage you and you are better able to support and encourage them as well. They may recommend people that you need to connect with to reach your goals. Tell them what your needs are. Remember that each person knows at least 250 people and those 250 people know another 250 people. Share your dreams and widen your circle of influence.

Find an accountability partner or friend to remind you why you chose your goals in the first place and what the end result will look and feel like when times get weak. It is during those times that you need to look fear in the face and remind yourself you can achieve so many things if you believe in yourself, your talents, and your abilities.

Many people talk but few take action. What are you going to do?

Share your comments on how you build your circle of influence and how you share your goals with others.

One of the greatest things holding us back from living to our highest potential is that we question whether or not, we deserve what we desire.There is enough in the world for everyone to go after their dreams and goals. My vision for my life is not the same as yours. It belongs to you and no one else. The big question is, ” Who can tell us that we do not deserve something?” You have a choice. You have the choice to ask for what you want with the intention that you will receive what you ask for.

Know What You Want. Clarity is the key. You must have a clear idea of what you are asking for and why. You will only receive what you want to the extent that you were clear. What does your end result look like? You are the one in control when you ask the question you wish to ask. How will the person you are asking benefit from your “ask”? Think about it. If you created an “ask” based on a win-win relationship, why would the answer be no?
Believe, it is possible and you deserve it. If you do not ask with confidence and conviction, the person you are asking may wonder how important it would be to answer your question. How bad do you want it? You may want to role-play with a colleague or practice in the mirror before you ask. You are meant to be, do , and have great things in your life. You need to BELIEVE IT!


Go out and ask for what you want!

Self-limiting beliefs or negative self-talk are obstacles that you need to put the brakes on. The internal chatter of telling yourself, “No, you do not know enough to do that” or “You never finish a task” needs to be extinguished. You see, skillsets can be learned but a mindset has to be changed. What kind of pep talk would you give your friend in a similar dilemma? The true obstacle to your success is you. You let yourself listen to the chatter and stop gaining the momentum you need to reach your goals. Even worse, you may give up on your goal all together. Do you really want that?

5 Ways to Stop the Internal Chatter and Release the Brakes

1. Acknowledge the negative self-talk but do not entertain it.
2. Stop the thought. When you hear the negative talk, just say “stop”.
3. Reframe each negative thought into a positive thought.
4. Ask yourself. “Is this thought 100% true?”
5. Wear an elastic band on your wrist, give it a snap when you think negatively. A quick reminder to change you thoughts and change your life!

Your thoughts are very powerful. You can make things happen with the right state of mind.

“Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born.” -Anais Nin
 Surround Yourself with Successful Like-Minded Individuals. Create relationships and a circle of friends that support you. It is so important to be around people who think the same way as you. It is invigorating to share ideas, stories, and thoughts with these individuals. You may lose a few friends along the way because they do not carry the same mindset as you. At first, this may be disheartening but the question you have to ask is, “Do you wish to move forward and be around people who support you and wish you well or do you want to stay stuck doing the same things you have always done? Surround yourself  with people supprot you and want you to grow as a person. Make new friends. Get to know people who have the qualities you admire or who have accomplished what you wish to accomplish. Ask them out for a coffee or lunch. You may even ask them if they would mentor you. These are the people who challenge you to grow and assist you in reaching your goals.

Who is your mentor? Who can help you take your career and life to the next level?