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EPISODE 548 – Cracks of Light and Open Doorways

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There are moments in life when things don’t go as planned.
When the path we imagined disappears.
When what we hoped for doesn’t arrive.

And in those moments, it can feel as though the light has dimmed.

In this episode, we explore the idea that hope doesn’t have to be loud or certain to be powerful. Inspired by insights from The Hope Quotient, we reflect on the idea that even 1% of hope is enough—enough to pause, enough to breathe, enough to take the next small step forward.

This conversation is not about medical or legal advice. It’s about holding yourself with care in seasons of uncertainty. It’s about recognizing that you have already survived many hard chapters—and that you are still here.

Especially during the holiday season, when joy is often expected but not always felt, this episode is an invitation to:

  • Sit with what is real
  • Honour grief, loss, and transition
  • Lean into compassion, forgiveness, and acceptance
  • And gently remind yourself that your story is still unfolding

If you are navigating change…
If you are questioning what comes next…
If your spirit could use a quiet lift…

This episode is for you.

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EPISODE 280 – Own Your Shift with Anthony Trucks

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Debra Kasowski is the charismatic podcast host of The Millionaire Woman Show, 3X Best Selling Author, Speaker, and Certified Executive Coach. She interviews incredible speakers, authors, CEO, Business, and Organizational Leaders and drops solo episodes with tips, strategies, and techniques for your success.

In this podcast video, Debra Kasowski talks with Anthony Trucks about rising above adversity, being hungry for greatness, forgiveness, and taking total ownership for your shift on The Millionaire Woman Show. It is time to Make Shift Happen!

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Anthony Trucks is a serial entrepreneur with one serious super power. The power to use his identity as a tool to execute so consistency becomes easy. Something he teaches people which allows them to start attaining their most ambitious desires as quickly as this month. He uses the power of identity to achieve their dreams. Which is why he created The Shift Method. A process and a company focused on helping people close their “Identity Gaps” that are responsible for the shortfalls in their potential and lack of success. He then helps them upgrade how they execute so that the hard things become easy, which means more success in all areas of their life. It’s time to Make Shift Happen.

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EPISODE 182 – Find Purpose in Your Pitfalls

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“As you begin to take action toward the fulfillment of your goals and dreams, you must realize that not every action will be perfect. Not every action will produce the desired result. Not every action will work. Making mistakes, getting it almost right, and experimenting to see what happens are all part of the process of eventually getting it right.”   – Jack Canfield  

If you have ever taken action, you know that with every action there can be a positive or negative outcome. Every decision or choice has a risk. To be human is to know that mistakes, shortcomings, failures, and pitfalls will occur. Perfection does not exist. When pitfalls do occur, it is important for you and I find purpose in those pitfalls.

According to an online Dictionary, a pitfall is “a hidden or unsuspected danger or difficulty.” Otherwise, known as the speed bump in the road of life believed to slow us down and on the rare occasion speed things up. To find purpose is to give meaning to the pitfalls. The purpose is to discover what happened and what the cause was to prevent those pitfalls from reoccurring.

Pitfalls can tell you a great deal about yourself, others, and the world around you. If you have the courage to share your pitfalls publicly or with your small circle of friends, you may even inspire someone with your vulnerability. Mistakes and pitfalls give you an opportunity to review your intentions, evaluate your commitments, and adjust your actions to align with your values.

Acknowledge Your Pitfall. The first step in finding purpose in your pitfalls is to acknowledge that a pitfall or mistake happened. We make mistakes every day. With some mistakes, you self-correct so quickly that you do not even notice. It is instinctual. Other mistakes will set you back or repeat themselves until you discover the lesson, make a different decision, and take a different action.

“Own” It! Accept 100% Responsibility. Sometimes when mistakes or pitfalls happen people minimizing them as insignificant, “It really doesn’t affect things.” or “It’s not a big deal.” Some people turn to blame others because they could not have made a mistake. Do you know anyone like this? When you accept responsibility for what is you control, you can turn things around and maintain trust and respect of others. People are gracious towards you when you “own your stuff” because they know there will be a time when they make a mistake and will need the same favour.

Reflect and Ask Powerful Questions. Taking time to reflect brings about self-awareness. Once you are self-aware, there is no turning back! When you have the awareness of what happened and what the cause was you cannot intentionally repeat the same mistake or error. You will need to make a change especially if you are looking for positive results.

What were the steps leading to this pitfall?

What could be done to prevent this pitfall from repeating?

What needs to be adjusted to get the desired result?

Mistakes teach us about integrity. Mistakes and pitfalls often happen when you have overcommitted yourself, avoided conflict, broken promises, failed to listen, or rushed to get something done. They teach us that sometimes we need to slow down and become mindful of our interactions with others, how we feel, and what is going on around us. According to Dr. Carol Dweck’s work, if you have a “growth” mindset, you will see your mistakes as an opportunity to improve. Whereas, if you have a “fixed” mindset, you will see your mistakes as fatal and something that cannot be corrected.

Fail Forward with a Plan. There is no sense in beating yourself up over a pitfall. It is done and often cannot be changed. Focus on what CAN be done. Now that you have determined what may have led to this pitfall, you can make a plan of action to get the outcome you desire. What will be your next steps to set up for one of your greatest comebacks?

Discipline Yourself to Avoid Falling into Old Patterns. When you have determined what led you astray and you have made a plan, you need to become disciplined and eliminate distractions taking you off track. You heard through a trusted source that your team wonders if you care about them as people. You may choose to get up from your desk two times a day to interact with your team members or staff instead of hiding behind your desk. Positive changes do not have to be big to make an impact. In this example, your team members want to know you care. You can demonstrate this by getting to know them as people and not just the people who work for you. Set a notification to ensure you do this otherwise it will be too easy to fall into old habits.

Pitfalls can:

  • Invite us to make better choices in the future.
  • Reveal insights into new ideas leading to innovation and creativity.
  • Show us that a person has changed.
  • Deepen our knowledge.
  • Inform our values.
  • Expose our true feelings.
  • Keep us humble.
  • Teach us the value of forgiveness.
  • Tell us when it is time to move on.

We should take time to celebrate these mistakes and pitfalls for we have the ability to learn and improve – become better versions of ourselves. Your pitfalls are part of your journey of discovery of who you are and the strengths, talents, and abilities that you have to share with others. They provide you with an opportunity to develop mental toughness. You can practice mental toughness; the true strength comes from your resilience.

Please share how your pitfalls have made you mentally stronger.

“When you make a ‘mistake’, don’t look back at it long. Take the reason of the thing into your mind and then look forward. ‘Mistakes’ are lessons of wisdom. The past cannot be changed. The future is yet in your power.” -Hugh White

We would love to have you subscribe to the Success Secrets newsletter on my website at www.debrakasowski.com where you’re going to get my just release FREE e-book about the 21 Habits High Achievers Kick to Achieve Success. I would love to hear about this podcast has impacted your life. E-mail me at Debra@DebraKasowski.com. Thank you for listening to The Millionaire Woman Show where we talk about leadership, business, and human potential to help you live rich from the inside out. Subscribe to The Millionaire Woman Show. Share it with Your Friends. Give us a 5-star rating!

DEBRA KASOWSKI, BScN CEC is an award-winning best-selling author, transformational speaker, blogger, and Certified Executive Coach. She has the heart of a teacher and is certified in Appreciative Inquiry and Emotional Intelligence. Her writing has been published in a variety of print and online magazines. Debra Kasowski International helps executives, entrepreneurs, and organizations boost their productivity, performance, and profits. It all starts with people and passion. Sign up the Success Secrets Newsletter and get your free e-book download today! www.debrakasowski.com

EPISODE 160 – Forgiveness Leads to Freedom

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We are reminded of the wisdom of Mahatma Gandhi, “The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is an attribute of the strong.” Forgiveness gives people peace of mind which leads to freedom. In biblical terms, the Greek word translated for “forgiveness” literally means “to let go”.  Some people have a hard time with forgiveness because they believe that if they forgive they are accepting or excusing the behaviour or action that occurred. Forgiveness is not saying what happened was respectful and right. Letting go is about freeing yourself from negative emotions around the situation or person so you can move forward.

Forgiveness is an intention decision to change how you feel about a situation. You can choose to harbour anger, resentment, and pain OR you can learn to chose joy, happiness, and peace. Sometimes it is hard for some people to let go and forgive for the anger and resentment has become a best friend. They always have something to talk about and someone to blame for their shortcomings. They play the victim or as some may refer to as “Eeyore” the dear friend from Winnie the Pooh. We all make mistakes and sometimes say things in the heat of the moment or without thinking. We can ask for forgiveness but sometimes the other person cannot forgive or is not ready to forgive.

The person who cannot forgive sometimes needs to process what is going on. There may be times when people get caught up in nursing their own feelings that they forget or disregard yours. Open communication is imperative. You can acknowledge a person’s offering of forgiveness and tell them you need time to process it all. You can also tell them you need time. Even though, forgiveness can occur in an instant by a decision, trust needs to be built over time. Unforgiveness divides and separates people from each other. The quicker we can come to a place of understanding and forgiveness the quicker we can move forward.

Harbouring pain from the past steals your joy from the “here and now”. You cannot change what happened. You can change how you view the situation. When you make a decision to forgive someone, you are demonstrating compassion and empathy for yourself and others. Hanging on to past hurts influences the steps you take moving into your future. You may be sabotaging yourself by holding on to past pains and hurts. Stop beating yourself up over what you could and could have done. Your thoughts and feelings at the time influenced your actions. The results and outcomes may not have ended up as you would have liked but realize you can ask forgiveness or what you can do differently to may things right – knowing that they may never be the same or they may be stronger.

Anger and resentment can occur in the workplace. When hurts occur, it is important to deal with the situation as soon as possible to ensure it doesn’t impact the work that is being done. These hurts are often related to misunderstandings, lack of personal accountability – people not doing what they say they are going to go, and fears. Issues that could be easily resolved by deep discussion or more information end up being taken personally create conflict that was unnecessary. When you come from a place of judgment of others, we must look at ourselves and ask ourselves what we have not been able to forgive of ourselves. Instead of judging based on mistakes and failures, we need to come from a place of learning and understanding.

Forgiveness has many benefits:

  • Healthier relationships
  • Improved mental health
  • Improved self esteem
  • decreased blood pressure
  • lessened symptoms of depression
  • less anxiety or stress

Do you need to forgive someone OR need to be forgiven? Take time to self-reflect. Do you need to take any accountability for your actions or response? Have you asked for forgiveness? Do not assume you won’t get it. If you do not receive forgiveness, realize the person may not be ready.

Here are some ways to help you forgive:

  1. Decide to LET GO and forgive knowing that it does not serve you to hang on to it. We all deserve to be forgiven for something. We are not without error or mistakes.
  2. Express how you feel about the situation or event. Bottling up or feelings and emotions can lead to ill health.
  3. Stop BLAMING others. By hanging onto past hurts, you do nothing but hurt yourself – you may even be sabotaging every success.
  4. Focus on NOW. Remember you cannot change the past and the future has not happened. You can only focus on the present moment.
  5. Forgive yourself and others. Quit beating up on yourself. Learn from mistakes and move forward. We are not without error or mistakes. Treat others how you would like to be treated should the same event happen to you.

Abraham Lincoln promoted forgiveness in saying, “I destroy my enemies when I make them my friends.” Before judging or misunderstanding a situation, ask for understanding and learn more about the intent and situation. How would you have reacted or responded? What can you take away from this situation that makes you better?

We would love to have you subscribe to the Success Secrets newsletter on my website at www.debrakasowski.com where you’re going to get my just release FREE e-book about the 21 Habits High Achievers Kick to Achieve Success. I would love to hear about this podcast has impacted your life. E-mail me at Debra@DebraKasowski.com. Thank you for listening to The Millionaire Woman Show where we talk about leadership, business, and human potential to help you live rich from the inside out. Subscribe to The Millionaire Woman Show. Share it with Your Friends. Give us a 5-star rating!

DEBRA KASOWSKI, BScN CEC is an award-winning best-selling author, transformational speaker, blogger, and Certified Executive Coach. She has a heart of a teacher and is certified in Appreciative Inquiry and Emotional Intelligence. Her writing has been published in a variety of print and online magazines. Debra Kasowski International helps executives, entrepreneurs, and organizations boost their productivity, performance, and profits. It all starts with people and passion. Sign up the Success Secrets Newsletter and get your free e-book download today! www.debrakasowski.com

 

 

 

 

 

 

EPISODE 135 – Learning to Let Go and Move On

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“The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.” 
― Steve Maraboli, Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience

Letting go of past situations where you experienced hurt, betrayal, or injustice can be challenging. What tends to happen is that people replay situations or moments in time where they made mistakes, said something they should not have, stressed over things that never happened, or they took actions that they knew that they should never have done.

Replaying these situations does not serve you. It only causes pain, grief, loss, shame, and guilt. Worrying about them is useless. People often think worrying about something gives you power to alter the course. Worrying does not involve action; without action things do not change. Letting go of these situations can be challenging especially when the situation defined who you were. This vision of what was and what was to be. Life circumstances change. You may have been shaped by an experience but you are not the experience itself.

Forgive others and then yourself. Realize that everyone is on their own journey with their own lessons to be learned. We are all human and can make mistakes. Trouble starts when you put people up on pedestals or romanticize our view of who they are and what they do for you. When they fail to meet expectations or make mistakes, you can get frustrated or angry. They suddenly have fallen off the pedestal that you perched them up on. Forgive them – they are learning their way in the world and hopefully learning from their mistakes like you are. Practice forgiving those who have hurt you in relationships, friendship, or family members through childhood. For there is a phrase, “forgive them for they know not what they do.” Most people do not make a point of wanting to hurt someone intentional. They do not always know if they have hurt or offended someone. Seek to understand and forgive them. When you are forgiving to others, they will be more forgiving to you.

Focus on the present to step into your future. Stop being a victim of your past and focus on the here and now. Pay attention to what you can control and realize that there may be some things you will not be able to control but you may have influence. Shift from thinking things happen to you versus for you. Everything in life happens for a reason. Some people are here to teach us lesson and others you are the teacher. You have probably heard the phrase, “When the student is ready the teacher will appear.”

Shift your attention and focus away from yourself to others. Ask yourself, “In 5 years, 10 years, or 20 years, will the stress I am experiencing right now matter? Often, it does not. Learn to see what happens for you as a blessing in disguise protecting you from future heartache and pain. Change your perception of a situation by asking questions and challenging your assumptions and beliefs, Learn something new. Instead of focusing in on your personal situation and the pain you may be experiencing, focus outward. Volunteer or find a way to serve others.

Change your actions if you do not like your current situation. You have a choice to keep things as they are, remove yourself from a situation, or accept it. Sometimes people stay in situations because they know nothing else so the accept the situation as is and live with it.

Express yourself in a creative way. You may choose to blog, write, draw, or paint to express yourself. Keeping your emotions bottled up does not solve anything. Write a letter to someone expressing how you feel even if you do not send it. It allows you to tell that person how you feel and you can release some emotions you may have been keep inside.

Letting go does not mean you will forget about your experiences. It means you realize that all things in life are temporary and that nothing is as permanent as it seems. Life can be fast and fleeting at times and at other times seem like it will last forever. By not having an attachment to outcomes, you will not struggle with letting go.

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DEBRA KASOWSKI, BScN CEC is an award-winning best-selling author, transformational speaker, blogger, and Certified Executive Coach. She has a heart of a teacher and is certified in Appreciative Inquiry and Emotional Intelligence. Her writing has been published in a variety of print and online magazines. Debra Kasowski International helps executives, entrepreneurs, and organizations boost their productivity, performance, and profits. It all starts with people and passion. Sign up the Success Secrets Newsletter and get your free e-book download today! www.debrakasowski.com