Podcast: Play in new window | Download
Subscribe: RSS
Photo Credit: Cherise Arcand
Endless possibilities begin with self-discovery.
Self-discovery is a process of deepening your understanding of yourself through self-reflection, exploration, and learning and growth. Ralph Waldo Emerson said, “Insist on yourself; never imitate.” Each of us has unique gifts to share with the world.
Have you ever been in a cycle of comparing yourself to others? It is human nature to compare yourself to others as a barometer of how you are showing up in the world. In fact, you may have experienced it with your parents or a teacher expressing, “Why aren’t you more like…?” Why? Because you are not! You are on your own journey just as they are on theirs. What you are good at may not be what another person is good at. We were not all meant to be the same. If you attempt to imitate someone, you can lose your own identity. This is why you must insist on being your authentic self!
Research shows that social media can be problematic as it can lead to social comparison that can be linked to negative psychological outcomes such as low self-esteem and depression. Ralph Waldo Emerson stated, “envy is ignorance, imitation is suicide.” When you start comparing yourself to others, you lose sight of your own uniqueness, talents, and gifts that are part of your own greatness. Jealousy is a call for action as it suggests that you want for yourself what another has. Envy is not healthy as it can be an obsession over wanting to be, do, or have what another has. Every time you imitate another person. you lose a piece of yourself and eventually, you may no longer know yourself to be you. It is important to acknowledge when you see social media posts of others that you are observing moments of time and not someone’s entire life journey.
Self-Reflection In a world where individuals can be quick to offer their opinions, you need to be able to use discernment. If you attempt to navigate your path based on other’s opinions, you can get to a point where you feel you have lost your way. One day, one person offers you one opinion. The next day someone else may offer theirs, and it can feel like there is a moving target. You may feel that you are getting caught up in societal expectations versus what may be best for you.
Self-reflection is truly about learning about yourself – your wants and desires, your likes, and dislikes, your strengths and weaknesses. who you are as a person, and what you want to be, do, or have. Discover what is working for you and what is not working for you. You may need to change patterns, habits, or routines. Journalling is one tool I recommend to my clients to help them to reflect and understand themselves better.
Exploration Nobody knows what your gifts are until you share them. You only know what you currently know. The more you expose yourself to new situations and experiences, the more you learn about yourself. Exploration requires that you step out of your comfort zone to try new things. How do you know what you like or dislike if you have never tried it? You might take a solo trip or go for dinner by yourself. You might take a pottery or painting class or even learn a new language. You might take a singing lesson or take on a leadership position. How do you know what you are capable of until you put yourself in the position to find out? People often underestimate themselves more than they over-estimate themselves.
Learning and Growth As you explore your opportunities, you will make mistakes along the way. Some people will see it as a failure. Failure is necessary for success. There are no true failures when you learn and grow from your experiences and circle back to discovering more about yourself and what to do and not to do. There is a richness of knowledge you can take away.
You can support your learning and growth in many ways: volunteering, reading books and industry articles, listening to podcasts or audiobooks, taking courses or workshops, attending conferences, networking with others, or participating in fitness or other group activities.
Your path is your path. Take time to reflect on what you want for yourself. Listen to other people’s opinions with discernment, curiosity, and caution. Explore what you are capable of, you may surprise yourself! Commit to continuous learning and keep a growth mindset.
Above all, insist on yourself! It takes courage to be who you are! You are braver than you think! Discover the best version of you!
Podcast: Play in new window | Download
Subscribe: RSS
In this podcast/video, Debra Kasowski and Nicole Russo, special guest on The Millionaire Woman Show podcast and Personal Stylist, delve into the captivating world of fashion and empower you to discover your very own style. Join us as we embark on a transformative journey towards finding your personal fashion identity. Unleash your unique style with expert tips, insightful advice, and inspiration from fashion icons. 👗🕶️👠🌟 Why is personal style important? Your style is an extension of your personality, a powerful means of self-expression. It reflects your individuality and boosts your confidence. Discovering your personal fashion identity allows you to authentically showcase who you are to the world. 🌟 How to uncover your distinctive style? #personalidentity #nicolerusso # debrakasowski
Nicole Russo founded Let’s Get You in 2017 and has since styled hundreds of people, sat at NYFW, and contributed to, or has been featured in Fast Company, Bustle, TodayxTmrw, and Martha Stewart Weddings. She has been a private stylist and personal shopper for over a decade, with fashion industry detours at J.Crew, and Theory, and was a senior personal shopper at NET-A-PORTER for almost 5 years, where she helped the world’s most stylish and successful women dress impeccably.
She’s on a mission to empower high achievers with personalized, time-efficient wardrobe solutions, enabling them to exude confidence and focus on important roles, such as CEOs or parents.
Follow Nicole on Instagram at @_letsgetyou and explore Let’s Get You’s transformative ethos at www.letsgetyou.com.
Grab a listen to my podcast when you are moving or relaxing wherever you are! Don’t forget to subscribe to get notified of every video that is released! Debra Kasowski is the charismatic podcast host of The Millionaire Woman Show, 3X Best Selling Author, Speaker, and Certified Executive Coach. She interviews incredible speakers, authors, CEO, Business and Organizational Leaders and drops solo episodes with tips, strategies, and techniques for your success. ***GET YOUR GIFT*** Go to www.debrakasowski.com for your FREE 10 pg PDF of Reset Your Mindset download when you sign up for our Success Secrets Newsletter. Book your Complimentary Discovery Session with Debra today!
1. Connect with Debra Kasowski on social media https://www.youtube.com/user/debrakas… https://www.instagram.com/debrakasowski https://www.facebook.com/debrakasowsk… https://www.twitter.com/debrakasowski
2. SUBSCRIBE to The Millionaire Woman Show podcast on iTunes
3. PURCHASE Debra’s books – Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and your favourite bookstore
GPS Your Best Life – Debra Kasowski & Charmaine Hammond
The Entrepreneurial Mom’s Guide to Growing a Business, Raising a Family, and Creating a Life You Love Let’s Be Curious: Ask the Right Questions Get Better Answers, and Create What You Want
Finger-pointing and the “blame game” are not attributes of an individual who is accountable. They fail to remember that as their finger is pointing outward there are three fingers pointing back at them. The waving finger is often loaded with excuses or reasons why something didn’t work. It is time to disarm the excuses and reasons and to help individuals step into their accountability.
According to the Merriam-Webster online dictionary, accountability is “the quality or state of being accountable. especially an obligation or willingness to accept responsibility or to account for one’s actions.” You may find people use the words accountability and responsibility interchangeably. There is a difference: responsibility is task-oriented whereas accountability has more to do with answerability for one’s behavior or actions. For example, when individuals on a team are each given a task toward a project, each person is responsible for their task of contribution. Now at the deadline of a project, everyone is accountable for the task they were assigned to. They must answer whether they have completed their task.
 There are also times when individuals misunderstand that they’re being held accountable versus being micromanaged. Accountability revolves around meeting expectations whereas micromanagement tends to be a hovering over or meddling in one’s role by taking over tasks. It is important to ensure that your team understands what accountability is and what taking ownership of their own behaviors and actions means. The best way to do this is to involve individuals or your team in creating a plan of accountability.
The late Stephen Covey said, “Accountability breeds response-ability.” You can respond to a situation instead of reacting to it. It starts with acknowledging what is and then owning or taking responsibility for the same. When someone takes responsibility for a situation, they have the ability course correct or come up with a solution.
“Accountability is the glue that ties commitment to the result.”
Bob Proctor
Get the Perspective of Others To make accountability right, you need to let go of the need to be right. The need to be right can prevent you from getting clarity about the situation. Â Each person looks at a situation from their own vantage point. This is why several individuals witnessing a car accident will all have a different narrative of what happened. Some people will zoom into a situation and see all the details whereas others will zoom out to see the bigger picture. All perspectives have value. By being curious and taking the time to listen to the perspective of others, you can establish a better understanding of the situation at hand. The other perspectives create a visual – Â setting the stage and helping you understand what is happening in the situation. When you take time to gather this information from others, you also demonstrate that you value and appreciate their insight.
Ask for Feedback from Others It can take courage for you to ask for the feedback that you need. Many people believe feedback is something that they receive when they need to correct a behavior or action because something went wrong. Asking for feedback from others can be a game changer in bringing a different perspective to how you do your work or how you are showing up. Is it aligned with who you want to be and how you want to show up? You receive feedback from the world around us all the time through our results, experiences, and how we feel about how situations went. It is important the test our reality and perceptions and to challenge our assumptions. Receiving feedback that is constructive is valuable in building your character and demonstrating that you are open to continuous growth.
Collaboration over Competition  Success is not a one-man or woman show. When you collaborate with others you can often come up with more creative and innovative solutions. Sometimes people are afraid to collaborate because they’re focused on competing with one another versus leveraging the opportunity to pull the right skill sets and minds into the right space at the right time. Brainstorming and creative solution finding comes from tapping into the rich resource of the knowledgeable people around you.
When you engage others and create accountability, individuals get invested in seeing the results. People like to contribute by offering ideas and solutions and knowing that they’re contributing that makes a difference. Let’s get accountable and get it right! Fingers down!
Podcast: Play in new window | Download
Subscribe: RSS
In this podcast/video, Debra Kasowski talks about the game change in achieving one’s success – accountability. She dives into some of the differences between accountability and micromanagement. Accountability is important for personal growth and development, building trust and reliability. When accountability is present. Amazing things can happen!
#accountability #personaldevelopment #debrakasowski
Grab a listen to my podcast when you are moving or relaxing wherever you are! Don’t forget to subscribe to get notified of every video that is released!
Debra Kasowski is the charismatic podcast host of The Millionaire Woman Show, 3X Best Selling Author, Speaker, and Certified Executive Coach. She interviews incredible speakers, authors, CEO, Business and Organizational Leaders and drops solo episodes with tips, strategies, and techniques for your success.
***GET YOUR GIFT*** Go to www.debrakasowski.com for your FREE 10 pg PDF of Reset Your Mindset download when you sign up for our Success Secrets Newsletter. Book your Complimentary Discovery Session with Debra today!
1. Connect with Debra Kasowski on social media https://www.youtube.com/user/debrakasowski https://www.instagram.com/debrakasowski https://www.facebook.com/debrakasowskiinternational https://www.twitter.com/debrakasowski
2. SUBSCRIBE to The Millionaire Woman Show podcast on iTunes
3. PURCHASE Debra’s books – Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and your favourite bookstore GPS Your Best Life – Debra Kasowski & Charmaine Hammond The Entrepreneurial Mom’s Guide to Growing a Business, Raising a Family, and Creating a Life You Love Let’s Be Curious: Ask the Right Questions Get Better Answers, and Create What You Want