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“. . . it’s worth recognizing that there is no such thing as an overnight success. You will do well to cultivate the resources in yourself that bring you happiness outside of success or failure. The truth is, most of us discover where we are headed when we arrive. At that time, we turn around and say, yes, this is obviously where I was going all along. It’s a good idea to try to enjoy the scenery on the detours, because you’ll probably take a few.” – Bill Watterson, Author of Comic Strip, Calvin & Hobbes
Results tell stories. We often see the result and not the whole journey. Sometimes you may see someone else’s success and wonder if you will ever achieve yours. You may have gotten stuck in comparing and seeing others competition. When you are focused on how to beat out someone, you lose focus on why you started in the beginning. First of all, there is enough for everyone. You can not serve everyone and neither can the person you are comparing yourself too. You can get further ahead by championing others and raving about their successes.
To start turning your results around, you need to realize a change has to be made. These changes may have been brought to your attention before and you ignored them or did not take them seriously. The world brings it to your attention through your results and suddenly you hear about a spouse leaving with the kids because the workaholic partner never had time for them, debts continue to rise, or you get high blood pressure because you are not taking care of yourself. Things tend to break down around you if you do not give them your time and attention.
Here are some questions to ask yourself:
What results am I now aware of?
Where did my results go off track?
How did I contribute to this?
What lessons have I gained from this?
What do I want my results to look like?
What do I need to continue doing?
What do I need to stop doing?
What can be done differently?
Who can I ask for support?
What resources do I need?
Some common issues in leadership, business, personal situations are:
- Avoiding confrontation and difficult conversations.
- Neglecting to pay attention to the numbers (finances).
- Having more fun than working on what matters most.
- Mixing business money with personal money.
- Working in a hobby thinking it is a business.
- Spending time with people who matter the most.
- Focus on greatest return on investment.
- Discovering health problems.
Communication. If there are issues in interpersonal relationships, they need to be tended to in a timely manner. Otherwise, it can lead to deep hurts or blow up in your face. Ultimately, it impacts results.
- Think about your contribution to the matter.
- Take time to address conflict by focusing on the facts and removing emotion. When emotions are high, you will not be able to think rationally and may say something you later regret.
- Gain an understanding of the other persons perception and share yours. Was there some miscommunication that can be clarified?
- Clarify misunderstanding and set expectations should a similar event happen in the future.
- Show appreciation with a handshake, hug, kind word, or written note, if appropriate.
Money. Money. Money. It needs your attention. Best case scenario is having more money coming in than going out. The more money you keep, the more you have to work with and have in your bank account. If you have a started a business, it is important to keep your business money and personal money separated. Once they start mixing it is too hard to unravel. Start with a simple spreadsheet and track you’re your cash flow of money. You will be able to make better decisions. Treat your business like a business. If you are working on something solely for personal satisfaction, you are spending money. If you are in business, your intent should be to make a profit. You are in business if your revenue exceeds your expenses.
Time after time…work hard play hard. I don’t know about you. I was taught that I needed to get my work done before I could have fun. Many people start their day surfing the internet or checking out everyone’s life on social media (because theirs seems so much more glamorous). You need block your time to reflect your productivity and performance. You need to get your work done and focus on your greatest returns on investment before giving away your time. Make time in your calendar for your spouse, partner, girlfriend, boyfriend, parents, children, and friends and colleagues in your calendar. There is nothing more important than your relationship with the people around you. They are the reason you are a leader. They are the reason you are in business. They are the reason you achieve your results. Manage your time wisely and keep your relationships a priority.
Self-care is a priority. If you get nothing else from this podcast. I want you to realize how important it is to create a sense of harmony or flow in your life. I would like to refer to this as a “fluid balance”. There are times when you are working full out and you know it is not sustainable for long periods of time. You need to build in ways to manage stress and cope with the different scenarios that enter your life or business. The more resilient you are the better able you are to deal with the situations that arise. Morning meditation/prayer, journaling, exercise, walking in nature, or listening to music are a a few suggestions for you to start taking care of yourself. You have heard the airline message before, “put your own oxygen mask on first.” You cannot help others if you do not look after yourself first.
Don’t let your current results get you down. Focus on what you want to achieve. Who do you need to show up as? What skills do you need to develop? What can you do to get ahead? Remember to go through the questions I mentioned again. You can turn things around. It is often the small shifts that make the biggest difference.
What are you going to start doing to turn your results around?
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hen you start comparing other people successes to your own you diminish your own worth. You need to be aware of the strength that you bring to the marketplace and how you and what you deliver is different and can stand above the crowd. Ensure that competition and comparisons don’t lead you into a Lone Ranger mentality. There is a difference between being alone and being lonely. Sometimes when were lonely we latch on to anyone -even if they’re not the ideal client. But when you are alone, you can be true to yourself and get really clear about your compelling vision. Your job is to delegate or outsource to others so that they can help you achieve that compelling vision. Build your team gradually. They don’t need to be full-time team members; you can hire people on a part-time basis or by contract. If you tried to do everything by yourself for a long period of time, your business will not be sustainable. You may even burn out.
Go to networking events and build relationships beyond the hello. Connect with associations in your industry. Discover what their goals are and how you can help. As you help others achieve their goals, they in turn will want to help you. This is called the law of reciprocity. You will build a loyalty and trust like no other. Learn to be happy for those who are succeeding around you instead of being caught in the comparison trap. Believe in yourself and believe that your success is on its way as well. What you are admiring is one moment or period of time. Their dream is their dream. Your dream is yours. You need to stay focused on why you are doing what you’re doing and what you want to accomplish. The outcomes may not be the same. Don’t lose sight of yourself by wishing that you are living someone else’s life, you have so much to offer and we need it done your way.
