Debra Kasowski

EPISODE 107 – Reasons for Failure

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“Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.” – Winston Churchill.

Recently, I went back to my old trusted and true resource of Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill after completing a podcast with Nicola Grace – The Mission Mentor. We were talking about how “you cannot afford to have a negative thought.” Our thoughts are so powerful and can speak to your future. As I was flipping the pages, I came across 31 Reasons for Failure. Now, if you have not read this book, you must. I am not going to go through all thirty-one, however, I do want to touch on some significant ones I have seen in my coaching practice and people I interact with daily. I have overcome some of these too.

No Defined Purpose or Aim. One of the reasons for failure is that there are individuals who lack clarity. They have no idea what they want to do or what they are here to do. Without clarity, they wonder aimlessly through life and have no direction and hence no drive.

Lack of Ambition. Strive to Get By. There are so many opportunities available to excel. Too many people put in just enough effort to get by and settle for mediocrity. They do not put in the extra effort required to get to the next level. Effort cannot be taught; it must come from within. They lack the drive to succeed. If this is you, you need to tap into the “why” you do what you do perhaps your why is not strong enough.

Lack of Education. When faced with a challenge, I have heard people say, “I can’t do that. I do not know enough.” Today with the internet you have no excuses and even before the internet you could find a way to learn what you needed to. There are free courses offered by distinguished teachers and education institutions offered online 24/7 through websites like Coursera and Udemy. Then there is Google, type in the question you are asking and get the answer at your finger tips in moments. If you need to take some courses professionally, then do so. You can also interview people who have the education you are lacking to learn more. Don’t forget the libraries are full of books that can support you. You can overcome a lack of education. You need to push yourself to do it.

Lack of Self-Discipline. In my work with Emotional Intelligence, this is a hot topic as self- awareness is the key to transformational change. If you want to improve in any area, first work to improve yourself and your habits. You cannot control other people. You can only control yourself. When you develop self-mastery, then you can focus on how you interact with others. The biggest area of control for self-discipline is reining in the negativity and shifting and reframing into a positive mindset.

Procrastination. Some people work well under pressure and they find that procrastination serves them. Procrastination can quickly lead to missed deadlines and opportunities. People will avoid assigning projects or task to you because you are not reliable. Underlying procrastination is the need to have everything just perfect. Perfectionists are often waiting for everything to be “just right” – the timing must be right, the right people must be in place, or the right environment must be set up. The timing with never be just right. You need to get started and adjust the course as you go; better resources will appear as you start on your journey.

Lack of Persistence. My friend and colleague Lori Raudnask has a book called, Persistence Pays. She talks about how you can get what you want in life if you persist. It is way too easy to quit at the first sign of defeat whether you have been rejected by a publisher or the bank or getting your first sale. You have not failed if you discover the lesson. The lesson of how to improve. Failure cannot exist if you keep taking intentional action and stay determined to succeed.

“Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.” Thomas A. Edison

Indecisiveness. The inability to make a decision is making a decision. Opportunities only last so long before they are taken away. If you are unable to assess situations and information and decide, you will have your future determined by other others who do. You need to learn how to become more decisive. Being indecisive is not different than procrastinating and waiting for someone to rescue you or do the work for you. Get going – do the work and make the decision.

These are seven reasons for failure. There are several others. Think of the reasons you have failed in the past. What did you learn? What would you do differently now that you have learned this? Now that you have the awareness, there are no excuses! You need to take different actions to get different results.

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DEBRA KASOWSKI, BScN CEC is an award-winning best-selling author, transformational speaker, blogger, and Certified Executive Coach. She has a heart of a teacher and is certified in Appreciative Inquiry and Emotional Intelligence. Her writing has been published in a variety of print and online magazines. Debra Kasowski International helps executives, entrepreneurs, and organizations boost their productivity, performance, and profits. It all starts with people and passion. Sign up the Success Secrets Newsletter and get your free mp3 download today! www.debrakasowski.com

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An Awakening of Sorts

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Do you ever feel like you are doing things but you are not really sure if people are paying attention? This question sparked a very interesting conversation with several friends and colleagues. When you are posting in social media forums, do you know how many people are viewing or reading your comments. Do people see all of your efforts?

This week was packed with connecting with women changing the world in their businesses and really great conversations. At the Millionaire Woman Club, Lori Raudnask and Gail Martin spoke about The Patterns of the Sales Cycle and 30 Days to Social Media Success. We were working in our networking groups and people were commenting about my posts and videos. They were sharing that they really enjoyed them and how the tips helped them improve something in their businesses and life. Two days later at the FIERCE Woman of the Year Awards, I had several more people come and say the same. Today, the same was true and people wanted to learn more from me. Do you realize the impact that you may be having on others while you do your business?

People are noticing what you do and do not do. What makes you different from others? Think about businesses or programs you work with. Do you miss the phone call from the dentist checking to see how you are after your treatment or the calendar from your financial planner at the beginning of the year? One of my realtor’s gives out pumpkin pies at Thanksgiving to all of her clients – do you think she is making an impact and building relationships? You bet! The way you do things and how you do things can be great learning for others.

I called this an awakening because do not always know how many read my posts whether it be a blog or on social media. Maybe someone LIKED it or made a comment but how do I really know if someone out there is listening and learning. Even if this blog impacts one person it makes a difference.

Be consistent with what you do. Stay true to what matters most and who you are. People are paying attention to what you are doing. Let the ripple you create in the world spread. Continue to give of yourself, you may not know the impact it has in the world but I assure you someone out there needed to hear it.

I want to acknowledge some special people who have a huge heart and have helped raise funds for local Edmonton Schools through The Spirit of Christmas Fundraiser today.

Joanne MacDonald – Sunset Gourmet – The Onion Blossom Horseradish Dip is amazing! Brynda Roche – NuSkin – Increasing Vitality and beauty in the World, Michelle Weisgerber – Stella & Dot – accessorizing today’s modern woman, Maria Pereira – Unique Treasures of the World – the best kept secret to stay at home shopping – what a Christmas Stress Reducer, Jocelyn Adcock – Party Lite Candles – sharing the beautiful scents of Christmas, Rose Sandulescu – Beautiful Skin for Life – for making my hands extra smooth, Dela Doe-Demosse of SheMama Naturals for skin care for the body and sharing your beautiful smile, Andrea Holmstrom – Stampin’ Up for her unique Halloween and Christmas stampin’ crafts, Patty Price – Fifth Avenue Jeweller, for showcasing fine jewellery, Joanna Kissick – Gold Canyon/Tupperware – fulfilling many needs in kitchen and home, Tammy Ayer – Epicure Selections – cooking spices and herbs that make you tastebuds water, Kristy Yarmuch with Mary Kay accebting a woman’s beauty, Alya Goulko of Artistry – for introducing me to a LED light and mirrored lip gloss, Bonnie Haugen introducing the world to Simply You jewelry, Carly Slater for showcasing her photography – thanks for sharing your talents, Linda Hein for her beautiful Christmas wreaths, Jennifer Haas for the playfulness of Discovery Toys, Sheila Krivsky for Organo Gold – the hot choclate was absultely deliciious, Lee Politano – Help 4 You Skin Care, Cheryl Carnegie for Sweet Tweet Sugar & Gluten Free Shop, Tammy Burgardt with Norwex, Mar Robinson for jams, jellies, and quilts, and Mariana Konsolos of Princess Florence Handbags and More – what a genuine spirit and beautiful business owner stylin’ ladies for success, and Lisa Litwinski for her Today, I choose cards for setting a great intention for the day.

I want to especially thank Shannon Berry of Capital Concierge and her family for the unconditional pouring of heart and soul into this project. Thank you to all of the vendors and visitors who are helping local schools, you have big hearts and I so appreciate you!

Know this people are taking notice of what you are doing. Set yourself apart.

As the saying goes, “You get what you give.” Thank you for giving of yourselves and sharing your talents with the world. May you reap much success.

Handling Objections with Lori Raudnask

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Lori Raudnask share tips on how to handle sales objections with Debra Kasowski.

One of the most important s to do when handling a sales objection is to always acknowledge what your client is objecting to. For instance, if someone has an objection say: thank you for sharing, I appreciate that, so you think the price is too high. Always come into their world first and find out the reason why they are objecting.

Ask a question. For example -“So the price is too high. I appreciate that. What have you compared it to?” Really go into their world and ask a question, it will give you time to build more rapport with your  client and close that sale.