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EPISODE 157 – Discipline Gets a Bad Rap

May 23, 2018 by Debra Kasowski Leave a Comment

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“Discipline is the bridge between goals and accomplishment.” – Jim Rohn

When building success habits, you probably don’t think about the discipline it takes to achieve what you want to. Discipline paired with desire and intention are what get results. You must have the desire and drive to go after what you want. You also need to take intentional action to get to the result you desire. In order to do so, you create a plan to achieve and you work the plan. This is where discipline comes into play.

Discipline is a game changer. It builds consistency. People often give discipline a bad rap because they see discipline as constraining or regimented. They will say, “This is not the military.” No, it may not be. Navy Seals get results and now teach leadership? To achieve a goal, you require discipline and effort to get to what you want. I saw a post that resonates with me on Instagram – “If it was easy, it would not make you proud.” You are most proud of the things you earned and worked towards.

Discipline is an activity or experience that provides mental or physical training. You are training yourself physically and mentally to build the stamina to get results and face challenges in your way. Discipline helps you make deliberate choices rather than be steered by your emotions at any given moment or bad habits to create a satisfying life.

Great things happen for those who are disciplined. You get things done!!! When you are disciplined, you are focused on what needs to get done and you do it. You are respected by others and often have self-control. You are confident. Not only do you get more done, you have more time in your day but you have less stress. You actually avoid problems by staying healthy and physically active.

Where people steer away from discipline, is when they steer away from results and focus on penalties of giving up the things they enjoy – desserts, greasy or fast foods, Netflix binges, daily lattes, and shopping sprees. They often feel that they are giving up fun and relaxation. It no longer becomes fun when you obsess over it. You need to shift your focus and reframe into the rewards you are seeking.

Would you rather get things done OR wonder when they are going to get done?

It takes discipline to…

Build an empire
Pay off debt
Climb the corporate ladder
Speak impeccably about yourself and others
Track your finances
Train for a road race
Create a marketing campaign
Declutter your desk or home

You may have your own list. Before you see discipline as limiting, ensure you are no holding yourself back from getting the results you want and desire. Short term sacrifice and structure for long-term sustainable gains…sounds like quite the toss-up to me…NOT!

Discipline is where IT IS AT! Focus on the rewards!

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DEBRA KASOWSKI, BScN CEC is an award-winning best-selling author, transformational speaker, blogger, and Certified Executive Coach. She has a heart of a teacher and is certified in Appreciative Inquiry and Emotional Intelligence. Her writing has been published in a variety of print and online magazines. Debra Kasowski International helps executives, entrepreneurs, and organizations boost their productivity, performance, and profits. It all starts with people and passion. Sign up the Success Secrets Newsletter and get your free e-book download today! www.debrakasowski.com

EPISODE 156 – Waiting to Be Great

May 22, 2018 by Debra Kasowski Leave a Comment

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“Waiting is a trap. There will always be reasons to wait. The truth is, there are only two things in life reasons and results, and reasons simply don’t count.” Robert Anthony

Waiting…waiting is to pause or delay! Why would you want to wait for being great or step into your greatness?

I have heard many reasons (actually, they are excuses and hiding place). They say, “I don’t know enough.” Or “I need more education”. Depending on your expertise, if you are wanting to be an astronaut or a surgeon, I would say yes, you probably do. We want you to know what you are doing. For the most part as a business owner, entrepreneur, or a leader of an organization, you can learn as you go and grow! There are so many resources available literally at your fingertips such as online courses and academies. Coursera and Udemy are popular.

Another reason I hear is that “I need more experience” or “They have more talent than I do.” You gain experience by doing so get out there and start doing. You may need to volunteer with a board or organization to get some of the experience you are looking for. Talent is great but unless you continue to work and grow your talent those who put the effort in and work hard – they will surpass the person with talent alone. Nothing beats grit!

Other reasons include needing everything to be perfect, not enough money to get started, no time or resources, indecision – waiting for the timing to be just right and blaming others for failed expectations. The amount of time you have available to you is no different than the next person. People will say they have no money and some may not. If you pay attention or do a walk through their home, you will soon discover where they spend their money and what’s important to them. It is not the person who has the most resources that succeed it is the person who is most resourceful who WINS!

You may see more reasons than results when you hold yourself back from being vulnerable or hold yourself back from taking action for fear of being criticized by others.

Greatness comes from courage. Courage comes when you step out of your comfort zone and take action. Courage over comfort! You need to start taking actions instead of rationalizing the way things are. Be practical can hold you back from visualizing your end goal and what you want. Being comfortable holds you back… you tell yourself…things are great why ruffle things up, however, there is a part of you that is ready to take a leap and stretch because you know if you don’t there is a part of you dying inside.

You may be waiting or postponing your greatness if you catch yourself saying, “after” or later”. You don’t think you can really pull things off. How do you know 100% you can’t?

Here’s the deal…

When you make a decision to overcome self-doubt, fears, and adversity, that is when you become great. Guess what? You have already overcome some of those – traveling to a new place, asking a guy or girl on a date, getting a college or university education, starting a new business, or going to the bank to ask for a loan. You can either overwhelm yourself or you can overcome yourself and step into the skin you are meant to be in.

Quit playing small it serves no one. You play small when you come up with excuses from taking action. Jim Carey famously said, “So many of us choose our paths in life out of fear disguised as practicality.” Practicality does not allow for dreaming of a bigger future!

One of the most interesting reasons I heard is that people wait to be great because once they achieve the dream or goal there will be nothing more to long for as it has been achieved so they delay it. Gian Carlo Menotti’s quote resonates with this,

“Waiting and hoping are the whole of life, and as soon as a dream is realized it is destroyed.”

My question for you is, “Why not set a new dream or goal?” Chances are you have not fulfilled your full potential. If you only knew how capable you truly are you would astonish yourself? Why not give it a shot and see how close to your potential you can get?

You are here for a reason…discover that reason and live it out!

Episode 155 – Building Extraordinary Relationships

March 25, 2018 by Debra Kasowski Leave a Comment

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Building a business is about building rock-solid relationships with people. I find that many people take this for granted. I see people at networking events socializing with the same crowds over and over. Are you there to get social or build relationships? Yes, you can be social and build relationships. Building relationships must be intentional and with the right people.

The very thought of networking makes some people cringe. They find networking to be superficial with the practiced elevator pitch and people who have an agenda in putting out the most business cards. They insist you must have theirs and they do not ask a thing about you. Don’t let your experience with these individuals blanket all networking events.

Networking comes in a variety of forms from formal networking events, social events like golf tournaments, charity functions, and galas, to conferences and one-on-one connections at the bank, grocery store, your kid’s sporting event, or the gym. You have opportunities to build meaningful relationships where ever you go. The only thing is you need to know who you want to meet and what creates an extraordinary relationship with you. Write it down!

Know “Your People”. If you were to profile your ideal client, how old are they? What do they do? How much money do they have? What do they do for work? What do they do for fun? What books do they read? Where do they hang out? If you do not know, ask them. Remember “bird of a feather flock together”. Define your “WHO” – who are you serving? Keyword – serving! You are not there to serve yourself.

Go WHERE Your People Are. You should not be going to any and every networking event possible. Networking is about meeting the right leads at the right places. You need to network with intention of meeting your 1-2 potential ideal clients. It is a competition to hand out the most business cards. Tacky! Those cards are the ones that hit the waste basket.

Get to Know Your People. The object of intentional networking is to build rapport and connection. Ask questions and LISTEN. If you listen long enough, they will tell you what they are struggling with – their pain point. You create the know, like, and trust factor. The more a person gets to know, like, and trust you the more likely they are to do business with you or refer you to others. Get to know them as a person not as a slot machine at the casino that just hit the jackpot. Discover more about their family, occupation/business, recreation, and motivation. What excites them about what they do? During the conversation, uncover their core values. Do they match yours? Determine whether or not they are a good fit for you. When you do business with others, you are working in partnership to achieve a goal.

Serve Your People. Learn WHAT their needs are and how you can serve them. If you can’t serve them, connect them to who can serve them. Even if you do not do business with them, referrals are a great way to fill your pipeline, aren’t they? When you work in service, exceed expectations and give them something to talk about. Be the person who follows through their commitments. Not everyone seems to do this. It seems like common sense but you will soon learn common sense is not that common. When you do this, your credibility soars. By giving them something to talk about, others will want the same experience.

Zig Ziglar has been famously quoted, “You will get all you want in life if you help enough other people get what they want.”

Nurture Your People. Remember building extraordinary relationships take time to be long-lasting. They are not a one and done transaction. You want to build a relationship for life. Do not burn bridges. You never know when your paths may cross again. You never know who they know and how it could impact your future. Follow up with an update on what you are up to and learn the same from them. Is there a way you can serve them?

Extraordinary relationships start with connection and conversation. Keep it REAL! A conversation that is based on common ground and genuine interest.

What do you have in common?

Do you have similar interests or hobbies?

Surprise them with a book or magazine that relates to your last conversation. Send them a gratitude card saying something specific about how their last conversation with you mattered. You get back what you put into the relationship. Let meeting you be a memorable experience.

Debra Kasowski, the charismatic host of the positively, thought-provoking podcast, The Millionaire Woman Show, is committed to enriching the leadership potential of her countless, devoted clients, essentially, guiding them to go within to uncover their vast inner resources, so then, capitalizing on their true personal power, they can achieve the measurable success they desire in business, and in life.

In today’s world of impersonal electronic communication, this award-winning speaker, two time bestselling author, and Certified Executive Coach wisely places the emphasis back on effective people skills; posing questions that promote insight and interaction, and the productive channeling of emotional energy towards problem solving, all key to promoting superlative workplace performance, and enhanced productivity.

After graduating with distinction, having earned a Bachelor of Science in Nursing from the University of Alberta, Debra spent many years as a clinical manager exceling in leadership development, before founding Debra Kasowski International, a world-class training, and consulting venture focused on helping aspiring business owners and solopreneurs develop the winning “success habits” that transform human potential into sustainable profits.

Passionate, herself, about continually expanding beyond the boundaries of her comfort zone, Debra, a dedicated wife, mother and avid philanthropist, has successfully finished two Olympic distance triathlons, while adding to her already impressive credentials with certifications in Emotional Intelligence, Appreciative Inquiry, and Coaching with LEADS program.

Clearly if you’re a business owner motivated to move beyond the mediocre, an entrepreneur inspired to forge on to the forefront with a proven plan of action, there’s no doubt that the indomitable Debra Kasowski is your solution.

Episode 154 – Refuse to Make Excuses

March 25, 2018 by Debra Kasowski Leave a Comment

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Have you ever noticed that there are people who are committed to their goals and then there are people interested? The people who are committed are super focused on what they need to do and who they need to connect with. You can always pick out the people who are interested because they are the ones who find excuses or “reasons” that prevent them from reaching their goals.

Do you recognize some of these excuses for not being able to take action?

The weather (hot, cold, windy, snowy)
No money
Don’t know enough.
Not __________ enough.
No time
The Economy is bad. (or good)
No education.
No one values me.
Self-taught.
I don’t have the right outfit.
Bad Childhood.
Good childhood.
They were there first.
Today is not a good day…and neither is tomorrow.

I know you may be laughing to yourself because I am certain you have heard some of these excuses. You will always find excuses or rationale to support your decisions if you look for them.

“When you master the power of self-discipline, you will NEVER make excuses for making progress.” – Brian Tracy

You need to get started by taking action steps toward your goals. Self-discipline comes with putting habits in place that serve you in reaching your goals. Habits become routines. Some people get bored or frustrated with repetition but repetition is what creates consistency. Consistency leads to mastery. Mastery leads to results. What happens is people are short-sighted, they want results now. Early gratification is NOT sustainable; however, small wins along the way builds momentum.

Self-discipline and strong success habits assist you in resisting excuses. Excuses often show up because you may realize that what you wanted requires effort and determination. You get focused on the penalties or pain of doing something versus the rewards or pleasure of gaining what you say you want and more. If you put the energy you put into making excuses into putting in the effort into what you need to get done, you would be farther ahead than you are now.

Excuses tell the world – you do NOT care about your goals as much as you say you do. Drop the excuses. They are NOT serving you. Excuses prevent you from getting ahead.

What are you afraid of? Dig deeper.

Challenge your excuses…challenge the important of your goals.

What does it mean to you NOT to achieve your goal?

What will it mean to achieve it?

Remember everyone who has succeeded before you started at the bottom and worked their way to the top. The fact they can do it means you can do it too.

They didn’t let the weather stop them. They tapped into resources and found money or earned it. They learned new skills and developed them. They committed to continuous learning. They blocked time off in their schedule to work on their goals. They learned that they did not need validation from others they needed to value themselves. Their childhood was in the past and they have control of the present and they can create their future with developing a new story. And, the best day to go after your goals is TODAY!

Stop holding out on yourself!

Make your goals a reality!

NO EXCUSES! YOUR COMMITMENT NEEDS TO BE STRONGER THAN YOUR EXCUSES.

In today’s world of impersonal electronic communication, this award-winning speaker, two-time bestselling author, and Certified Executive Coach wisely places the emphasis back on effective people skills; posing questions that promote insight and interaction, and the productive channeling of emotional energy towards problem-solving, all key to promoting superlative workplace performance, and enhanced productivity.

After graduating with distinction, having earned a Bachelor of Science in Nursing from the University of Alberta, Debra spent many years as a clinical manager excelling in leadership development, before founding Debra Kasowski International, a world-class training, and consulting venture focused on helping aspiring business owners and solopreneurs develop the winning “success habits” that transform human potential into sustainable profits.

Clearly, if you’re a business owner motivated to move beyond the mediocre, an entrepreneur inspired to forge on to the forefront with a proven plan of action, there’s no doubt that the indomitable Debra Kasowski is your solution.

EPISODE 153 – Reverse Engineer Your Success

March 13, 2018 by Debra Kasowski Leave a Comment

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Vision is the picture you have in your mind of what you want to achieve. I learned early on in my quest of achievement to reverse engineer my plans to get the success I wanted. The exercise of working from your vision to where you are now will help you create the roadmap you need to get to where you want to go from where you are right now. Most people will share the vision of what they want to achieve but very few will write out a description in detail through reverse engineering the plan. The steps to success are simple. We tend to complicate things, thinking what we are ding needs many more steps or extras.

Reflect and Project

Hindsight is 20/20. You are in the Present. The future is all you can see. You have been successful in other areas of your life, business, or career path. You have a system in which you do things naturally. Take time to reflect on your past successes. What did you do to achieve what you achieved? What is the most common factor in your successes? Now, look at where you want to go now. Who do you need to show up as? Who do you need to be? What do you need to have? What do you need to do to be it or achieve it? You need to gain clarity and understand where you are going before you can reverse engineer a plan.

Act and Fail Often

Learning experiences are many when you take action. You have made mistakes or failed. These are learning experiences. Do not beat yourself up. Do not dwell on it. What was the lesson? What do you need to change or continue doing? What do you need to stop? Our best learning opportunities are the ones where we have risked being rejected, feeling ashamed or embarrassed, or have failed. If you had never taken the step, you would never have known what you are capable of. Guess what? You are still here! You need to go at it again in a new way! Remember to reflect, adjust, act, and repeat!

Find a Role Model

Success leaves clues. Who has done what you want to do? Find a mentor or hire a coach to help you identify the steps you need to get to where you want to go. Learn from others to see what actions you need to be taking to get to where you want to go. Ask what they did to achieve success. You may not be as far off from success as you think. You do not have to have all the resources in the world to be successful. You need to learn what resources you have available and leverage or activate them when needed.

Map It Out

Grab your post it notes, flip chart paper, and markers and create a visual of what you want to achieve. Mind map what will be required and where you can get it. You may need to ask someone for ideas. By getting it out of your head onto paper, you can establish the emotional connection to what you want to achieve.

Uncover Your WHY

As you reverse engineer or forward-backward plan, determine why the end goal important to you? Establishing the emotional connection – your “WHY” is important in getting you to move forward when you are faced with challenges. Many people get caught up in the how versus focusing on the why and they lose their emotional connection to the vision they wanted.

Reverse engineer your success and use the drive for your WHY to help you get to your destination. Keep the roadmap simple.