My  friend, John, called me up recently and said, “Deb, I have a book you need to read. Buy it and if you do not like it, I will buy it back from you for double the price you paid for it.” Now if that doesn’t leave an impression. I can have three to four books on my bedside table at any one time. When I first learned of it, I was leaving on vacation and was hoping to pick the book up in the airport. But I could not find it. When I got home, I requested it from my local library and I eagerly got started. The book is called “Love is a Killer App: How to Win Business and Influence Friends” by Tim Sanders.

Sanders’ book is built on three principles: knowledge, network, and compassion. The knowledge and experiences that you have, can have greater benefit to you when shared with others. What good is the knowledge if it can not be shared . What is even better? When you share what you know about a subject, the better you know the material and can integrate the content into your practice. You bring more value to others in helping them succeed. Tim Sanders says, “Everyone in our address book is a potential partner for every person we meet.” If you could leverage who you know and connect people with who you think they need to know, you can also increase your network as people will also think of people you should know.

Compassion is the key that brings it all together. It is the experience you give the people who are in your network. This is what attracts people to you. Show people you care and you have a genuine interest in their success. This is how you move from what Sanders calls the service economy to a experience economy. Give people value and show compassion – let them experience YOU! People will be committed to helping you succeed as well. You will want to get your hands on this book.

I love helping people like YOU succeed in reaching their goals!

Did I gain valuable knowledge from this book? Heck, yes! I have 13 pages of notes! It is important to take notes and absorb what you learn and put the greatest tidbits into action. I also have a reference to great content so I can practice being a love cat in a biz world! Without practice, the knowledge learned is just words!

Now let’s put it into practice! Let me here you purr or should I say ROAR!

What do you want to attract into your life? How has the law of attraction worked for you?

I remember watching the TV series “Different Strokes” years ago. Gary Coleman played a character named Arnold. He use to question his brother, Willis, with this famous line, “What You Talkin’ About Willis?” Arnold had this furrow in his brow and a pouty mouth.

I saw the same look on my older son’s face the other day when his soccer team was suffering a potential loss. He is a competitive young man who strives to win. He is still learning the lessons of loss and sportsmanship. He wanted to switch to a different team, a team which he thinks could have a higher skill level. I told him we could look into the possibilities but I could not guarantee that the move would be possible. He may have to make the most of the situation. As he stood on the sidelines, he crossed his arms and gave me the look, “What you talkin’ about MOM?”

What I explained to him, can apply to areas in our lives as well. You may have an event or situation that comes up in your life that you may not care for. It can be working with a committee or a team in which all members come together with different abilities. I explained to my son, “There will always be people better than you and those who do not have the same skill level as you. What matters is how you play the game. How do you enrich the team you are assigned to? Are you giving your best in every play or situation?”
You can help build other players up by teaching them some of your savvy skills. Ask a person you see as more skilled than yourself for their guidance and tips for improvement. You can find out what every one’s expectations and goals are. Communication is so important in working together. Get to know each other and discover each other’s strengths. Position yourselves so that you are allowing people to give their very best. That way -You win. Everyone wins. Let other people know what you doing and ask for help when you need it. You are sure to SCORE  the goal and achieve your end result.

Take your event or situation. See how YOU can make a difference right where YOU are right now. Look at what you have and not what you do not have. The outcome of your situation depends on how you respond to it. What skills do you bring to the table? How can you leverage these skills and make your situation better?

I had the honour of interiviewing Dr. Fabrizio Mancini a few months ago. He is internationally acclaimed speaker with a big heart. Listen to his interview below.

Yesterday, I was passing the football back and forth with my son. For a 7 year old, he has some muscle in that little arm. He threw some great spirals. I, on the other hand, did not throw the perfect spiral. Jordan started to laugh and said, ” Come on Mom! I know you have some juice in there.” I was flabbergasted. I asked him how he learned to throw so well. He said, “Dad taught me. Look, Step, and Throw.” Lessons from my 7 year old, “See Mom, you can do it!”

When you want to try something new or improve in an area, do you LOOK for resources and people to help you? You want to talk to people who have already done what you want to do. Their wisdom is priceless. Read books in the area you want to grow in. If it is not one of your strength, consider hiring an expert.

Once you are armed with some knowledge and lessons from others life experiences, it is your turn. Do not wait for the perfect moment as you will just procrastinate and nothing will come to be. Instead, STEP into it! As you attempt to go after what you want, you create momentum. You can adjust along the way!

Make it your own TOUCHDOWN! It’s GOOD!