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How to Make the Sale Without Being Salesy

October 1, 2012 by Debra Kasowski 9 Comments

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We are all in sales-selling ourselves out in the world. Selling is a relationship between the seller and the prospect. Selling doesn’t have to sound like a dirty word. I do not like high-pressure sales, gimmicks, or tricks to get the sale. I do like to study salespeople when I go into showrooms to see if they create relationships with their customers. I want to know if there truly listening to hear what their prospects needs and wants are. A salesperson should be able to answer the question, “What’s in it for them?” before looking for the sale.

As a customer, I do not want to walk into a store or show room looking like I am walking dollar bill that needs to be collected. A couple weeks ago on a Sunday afternoon, my husband and I were out vehicle shopping and when we came to the number crunching time and were negotiating the offer, we had for different salespeople sit in the chair before us trying to get the sale. One of the sales persons was even going to throw in a Wii console for my children to have in the car. I did not purchase a vehicle there. I am still looking for what I want.

This is where active listening plays such an important role in getting a sale without being salesy.  When you were actively listening to your prospects or your customers you are in fact building a relationship and gaining a better understanding of their wants and needs and how you can be the key to fulfilling that.

Active listening also involves asking the right questions.  Here are some examples of active listening techniques as well as some ideas of what questions you should be asking.

Active listening:

  •  be present and focus in on your prospect or customer
  •  smile and maintain eye contact
  •  nod if appropriate when responding to conversation
  •  listen and hear the words that are being said

Asking the Right Questions:

  •  ask your prospect or customer what they are looking for -get a clear picture
  •  probe for more detail if necessary
  •  discover their goals and challenges – what experience are they hoping to have
  •  what are the features and benefits for your customer
  •  discover a common interest which makes you relatable to the customer

Active listening and asking the right questions makes your prospect and customer feel that they are important to you and that you value their business and and appreciate their time.  and Create conversations around service and meeting your customers needs.   your prospect or customer may make the decision to go through with the purchase and sometimes you may ask the sale.  When you use conversation, you can get to the sale without pressure, without gimmick,s or tricks.  Be real. Remember your time is valuable to why not  use it to serve others in a big way.

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  1. Jeremy Ginn says

    October 1, 2012 at 10:15 pm

    I loved this post! I am a supervisor of customer care for a regional insurance company. One of the biggest challenges I face is getting my people to ask questions and actively listening and responding.

    I look forward to reading more of your posts.

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    • debra says

      October 1, 2012 at 10:40 pm

      Thank you Jeremy! You may also like my article entitled http://ezinearticles.com/?9-Habits-of-Highly-Effective-Customer-Service&id=2436632

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  2. Richelle Anderson says

    October 1, 2012 at 11:08 pm

    I completely agree. More often than not if you let the client talk you will pick up on the hot spots and they will tell you how to sell them without feeling like they are being “sold”.

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    • debra says

      October 2, 2012 at 10:47 pm

      Thank you Richelle! Hot spots or pain points take time to listen and be the solution.

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  3. Kelly Tibbets says

    October 2, 2012 at 4:57 pm

    oh, the pushy sales person…. A little over a year ago I was stalked around my gym by a woman selling essential oils – it was terrible and she did not get ANY of my hints until I had to be quite rude to get her to back off! Listen, listen, listen… best advice you can give anyone about anything 🙂

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    • debra says

      October 2, 2012 at 10:44 pm

      We know them too well…thank you for your comments Kelly!

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  4. Brad says

    October 5, 2012 at 9:45 am

    A great blog Debra, So true…. Effective communication of any sort is in how to listen more than in what to say. <3 Namaste

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  5. Marriann Hammond says

    October 8, 2012 at 9:29 pm

    Someone once told me “Be Interested…NOT Interesting”. So in other words, talk less and listen more. Running a business based soley from customer referrals…being interested in each client is crucial and has proven to be very successful. Thanks Debra! Great post.

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  6. Shelley Streit says

    October 10, 2012 at 10:59 am

    A great post Debra,
    As the person in my household who often initiates the big ticket item purchases I often find that salespeople create a prejudgement in their head upon seeing the prospect before even getting to speak to the prospect thereore it clouds the whole communication process.

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