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8 Lessons I Learned from Seeing Oprah LIVE!

January 23, 2013 by Debra Kasowski Leave a Comment

DSC00378Whether she is walking onto her Oprah Show or walking on stage, Oprah has a presence of no other person I know. I am grateful for seeing in her Calgary LIVE. They announced she was coming to Edmonton a month after I already had my tickets. All I knew is that I needed to be there. Oprah is a living legend that has inspired and changed the world by being true to herself. She has navigated the obstacles that have come her way – a role model of resilience!

My children were also excited to see and hear her. My son had tears at the end saying that he was inspired by her and that he knows that he will achieve his dream of being a professional golfer because “Whatever follows “I am” will find you.” from Pastor Joel Osteen. I learned many years ago in Jack Canfield’s book, The Success Principles, that it is important to share this inspiration and encoouragement with your children as they will aspire to become more. I love to involve my children in what my passions are. They end up being my greatest cheerleaders.

I wanted to share her most profound messages from that night: OPRAH QUOTES

“Your competition is within you. You set the bar.”

How many times have you been distracted by checking out what others are doing or devaluing your own accomplichments and journey? The competition you have is between your ears. Challenge yourself. Strive for your personal best. Set your OWN (pun intended) expectations of yourself. If is unfair to measure yourself to another person’s standards.

“Education is the door to freedom.”

DSC00352I have always believed this. Growing up my parents would say, “Education is never a waste.” You may change your path or take classes or courses that you think you may never use but you learn information, discipline, and even most importantly more about what you like and dislike. You get closer and closer to who you are meant to be.

“You become what you believe.”

There is so much power in the words we use as they affect our thoughts, actions, and behavior. Believe in yourself.

“Everyone wants to know they are seen, heard, and that they matter.”

We all want to know that we bring value to the world. This is secret to creating long last relationships in business and life. Be fully present and engaged with the people you interact with. They will remember that you took the time and made them feel that they were the only person in the room.

“Follow the threads of your experiences to figure out what you are here to come to do.”

Reflect on the moments that have brought you to where you are today. How have you been prepared along the way to be where you are today? There are clues and events that have led you on yoru path.

“You honour your calling when you do what you came here to do.”

When you go after what it is you want in life, you honour a higher power – God or Source or whatever you believe to be true. I like to describe this as that burning desrie to succeed at what you have your heart set on. I know I am here to serve others in a big way through writing, speakign, and coaching. I am here to help others finding meaning and passion in their life through my messages.

“God does not require your belief, he requires you to experience. You are breathing  right?”

Your life is an experience. Choose to live fully and honour the truth that lies within you.

“Your real job is to know your calling.”

Discover your purpose and you calling and you will be a light in the world. When you act in accordance to what you know to be true, life is not work it is there to be enjoyed.

Although this may be considered a one in a lifetime experience, I look forwad to one day meeting her in person. I grew up watching and learning from this phenomenal woman. I aspire to “be the change in the world.” I will remember this night forever.

What is your favorite Oprah quote? Who inspires you?

Filed Under: Blog Tagged With: inspirational blog, life's calling, life's purpose, oprah quotes, relationship building

3 Secrets to Taking the Shark Bite Out of Building Rapport

November 1, 2012 by Debra Kasowski 2 Comments

Getting to know people is an essential part being heart-centred entrepreneur. People first philosophy then discover possibilities. Sad to say that there are many sharks out their in the blue waters of being an entrepreneur that need to learn this lesson. I think this is where some of the car sales people get a bad rap. Instead of finding out what you want and what your needs are, they have eyes like a slot machines and suddenly the Cheshire grin appears and they are ready to yell “JACKPOT”.

Building rapport is crucial in business and the first impression happens in the snap of a finger. Have you been at an event where people naturally gravitate to a certain individual? Some people have the natural gift of the gab and others have a charisma that has magnetic powers. I bet you wonder what it is that they have that you don’t. But you do have it – it is already inside of you.

There are 3 secrets you must know:

Personalize. Use the person’s name you are speaking to throughout the conversation as appropriate. People love the sound of their name. Remember a person’s name especially if you have met before makes a person feel important and that your last interaction mattered and you were listening.

No selling! Building rapport is about building relationships; it is not about closing a sale. It is about building the know, like, and trust factor. How do you do that? Get to know the person you are speaking to as a person behind the business not business first. Discover a common interest: family, line of work, education, extra curricular activities, travel, or pets.

Give without tracking who has done what. You know the saying, “If I scratch your back, you will scratch mine.” It doesn’t work that way in business. If you are always tracking what you do for someone, they will not feel that you are doing it to help them, instead they will think you have a hidden agenda. Be transparent. Learn what some of their challenges are, perhaps you can make a referral to someone in your network or send them an article of interest. The transaction should be, “What is in it for them?”

The people you interact with may not be your customers but they do have a network of their own in which someone may be a right fit. As they get to know you and know that you are not just after a sale, they will refer you to others.

Wouldn’t you rather be known for the knowledge and skills you possess versus being a shark on the kill?

 

 

  1. No selling!

Filed Under: Blog Tagged With: building rapport, relationship building, sales secrets, selling

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