“The world as we have created it is a process of our thinking. It cannot be changed without changing our thinking.” ― Albert Einstein
What we think about influences how we feel and the actions we take. When you think positive thoughts, you feel great and are more likely to take the actions necessary to get the results you want. When you get caught up in negative thinking, you feel frustrated, disappointed, and even let your imagination run wild with all the possibilities of what you think can be occurring. Most of the time, unless when you confirm those thoughts, you will find out you were totally off base. You need to be careful so you are no sabotaging yourself from achieving your own success. If you want to achieve a new level of thinking, you need to start paying attention. Positive change starts with focusing on yourself not looking to change others. What can you do?
Pay Attention to Your Language
Are you using empowering or disempowering language? Are you coming up with excuses or reasons you believe you are not achieving your success? Are you blaming or complaining seeing others as the cause of your situation?
Stop and listen to yourself. What do you hear yourself saying?
Do you look at the “To-Do” list and say, “I have to do this.”, begrudgingly? It sounds like a chore. Do you ever look at that “To-Do” list and say, “I get to!” I get to mow the lawn. It means I own a home where I have my own green space. I get to buy groceries. It means I have food accessible to me. I get to chose food that will fuel my body. Notice when you shift your thinking and statements, you empower yourself with a choice.
Here’s another one:
When you are asked to do something even it could be a benefit to your career or business, do you say “I can’t do it. – I have no time, I am busy.” We all have the same 24 hours in a day. What you are really saying is that you chose NOT to. It is not about capability- it is about capacity. What are you willing to do? If something is important to you, you will make time. When I say make time, I mean, a block of a certain amount of time to dedicate it to your task. You need to start moving things off the “To-Do” list and start moving them into your calendar. You CAN do what you CHOOSE to do.
Are you shutting down opportunities because all you see is one barrier after the next? This focus is called resistance. Why are you resisting? There is more that one way to achieve your goals. Look for all the possible options. When you are solution-focused, you will find solutions. When you look for barriers, you will find all the obstacles in your way. What is one opportunity you have in front of you right now that you may have been resisting? Do you need to stop doing something or start doing something? All change can feel uncomfortable but the results are priceless. Start small – test a solution and adjust the course as you go.
There are many more disempowering words, all you have to do is pay attention to how you feel when you say them. Do you feel uplifted and empowered or do you feel like you are dragged down?
Pay Attention to What is Influencing YOU
There are many factors that influence the way you think, feel, and act on any given day. Some contributing factors are internal influences such as your beliefs, thoughts, and feelings. There are some external influences that influence you such as the people you surround yourself with, the books you read, the music you listen to, and the television you watch.
Everything begins with a choice. You can reframe negative thoughts to positive ones. You can challenge self-limiting beliefs and form new beliefs. You can surround yourself with people who encourage and support you or distance yourself from others who do not. You can read books in business or industry that will get you thinking in new ways and lead to stimulating discussions. You can listen to audiobooks in your vehicle as you drive. Feed your mind empowering content and you will start thinking at a new level. You will start taking actions that get you closer to your goals instead of farther away.
Make choices based on your values, not how you feel “at the moment.” When people are in a high emotional state, they do not think clearly. A part of the brain called the amygdala is hijacked from rational thought so you may say or do things that you will later regret. When your emotions are high, it is best to slow down your thoughts and give yourself some time to calm down before taking any actions. Are you focused on your core values and how you want to be known?
Pay Attention to Where You are Putting YOUR ENERGY & FOCUS
Roy Bennett said, “If you want to be happy, do not dwell in the past, do not worry about the future, focus on living fully in the present.” If you are focused on your past, you cannot fully live in the present or plan for the future. You have the same story playing over and over in your head of what is possible and what is not possible. Change your story. You are the author of your life write how you want it to go. Do not focus on your current situation as all you will see is what is. Focus on what you want to achieve and how to get there. Energy flows to what you focus on. Focus on how you need to BE and what you need to DO to HAVE what you want.
To start achieving a new level of thinking, you must start with YOU! Pay attention to your language, your influences, and where you are putting your energy and focus as they are all influencing the actions you take and the results you are getting.
What are you going to pay attention to?
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