No one wants to fail, let alone let others see them fail. The reality is that you are more critical of yourself than other people. People naturally want to help you succeed so they don’t want to see you fail either. Instead of being embarrassed and avoiding people because you are worried about what they think about you, find ways to may the failure meaningful.
You may have heard the phrase “fail forward” so pick yourself up and keep going. By keeping the momentum going, you can rise up to new heights and succeed at what you are working on accomplishing in a different way.
Define what success is on your terms. Everyone has their own definition of success. What one person defines as success may revolve around how much money is in the bank. For another person, success may be traveling around the world. Just because something did not go as planned does not mean you are not a success. Re-frame the situation and realize that this one event was not successful. Do not let it define you.
Discover the lesson in failure. They say that success leaves clues. What clues have been left for you to take a different action in the future? What was missing that needs to be executed next time?
Detach from the outcome, trust the process. Sometimes when you get so hung up on what the outcome is supposed to look like, you are not open to the possibilities and opportunities that come your way. You also want to be able to trust if the best efforts were put forth that you will be able to get the results that you want. Worrying or getting upset about it does not solve anything. You have heard the cliché, “everything happens for a reason.” In my experience, it certainly does. Be open to the possibilities.
If you do not know what you are working toward achieving, you will not get there. If you cannot find the lesson in the failure, chances are you will take the same actions and get the same results. If you cannot trust yourself and the process, you will never act. There are many ways to achieve success. Let finding meaning in your failures be one of them.
DEBRA KASOWSKI, BScN CEC is an award-winning best-selling author, transformational speaker, blogger, and Certified Executive Coach. She has a heart of a teacher and is certified in Appreciative Inquiry and Emotional Intelligence. Her writing has been published in a variety of print and online magazines. Debra Kasowski International helps executives, entrepreneurs, and organizations boost their productivity, performance, and profits. It all starts with people and passion. Sign up the Success Secrets Newsletter and get your free mp3 download today! www.debrakasowski.com